Bangalore: Dowry harassment - Woman gives mother-in-law dose of her own medicine


Daijiworld Media Network – Bangalore (SP)

Bangalore, Aug 25: In an incident which occurred at Banashankari Layout in the city recently, a woman, with help of a women's organization, beat up her mother-in-law, who allegedly meted out dowry harassment besides forcing her to abort her pregnancy, and then driving her out of home.

The daughter-in-law in question, Roopa, has filed a complaint in Banashankari police station, accusing her mother-in-law, Amaravati, living in Raghavendra Layout in Padmanabhanagar here, of pestering her to bring more dowry, forcing her to undergo abortion, and then kicking her out of her husband's home. The police have since arrested the mother-in-law, while Roopa's husband, Jnanesh, has gone into hiding.

Jnanesh had married Roopa, his elder sister's daughter living in Chamarajpet here, during February last. He had got dowry in marriage, besides getting an additional sum of five lac rupees from his wife for opening a cloth shop at Bashyam Circle in Rajajinagar. When Roopa was in the fourth month of her pregnancy, she was not provided with proper food, was tortured mentally and physically, and then forcibly made to submit herself to abort her pregnancy. Within a few days thereafter, Roopa was driven out of her husband's home.

It is said that Amaravati had also driven out her elder daughter-in-law and wife of her first son, Manujunath Achar, Shruthi, in similar fashion. Aggrieved by these developments, Roopa had contacted women's helpline. Roopa also got support of a women's group. Roopa and Shruthi, with the support of members of this women's group, then visited the home of their husbands and beat up their mother-in-law badly, it is learnt.

  

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  • Jwala, Bangalore

    Sat, Nov 01 2014

    Looks like a fake article. No real women's organization will ever resort to this kind of cheap action.

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  • Vincent Miranda, Udupi/Dubai

    Tue, Aug 26 2014

    Dear Well wisher,
    Looks like you are also treated your daughter-in-Law like Roopa, that’s why you feels guilty. If you are a Mother-in-Law, your age might be high-end 60's or high 70's. so,empty yourself, surrender before god,prepare yourself for new life before time runs out.

    Remember!! Roopa's Mother-in- Law enjoyed the life at Roop's age time frame, now Roopa's time and age to enjoy the life.Thank you.

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  • jrome, mlore

    Tue, Aug 26 2014

    going by the report, the MIL is also the grandmother of Roopa - the DIL. Hope I have understood the report correctly.

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  • Santan Mascarenhas, Kinnigoli/Mumbai

    Tue, Aug 26 2014

    With due respect to good mothers-in-law, there is a saying that God could not be everywhere.. so, he created mothers. Satan could not be everywhere, so he created mothers-in-law. I do not agree with this.

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  • Vincent Miranda, Udupi/Dubai

    Tue, Aug 26 2014

    Well wisher, Udupi.
    Your message is un-digestible,
    Looks like you are not scared of Hitler for sure, nor even even GOD..

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  • Well wisher, Udupi

    Tue, Aug 26 2014

    Mr. Vincent,
    You may not get a chance to live with Monster in law that is why your words are sweet, but you really will take back your words once you live with them not for a day or two but atleast for some time.

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  • Charles D'Mello, Pangala

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    I think this is the best way to treat those who treat us bad...!!!???

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  • shahnawaz kukkikaate, dubai/udupi

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Why bjp is concerned about love jihad only.. why not they do something good to their own community by doing the same thing they do when a couple from two different communities meet n talk....need of hour...action by sangh parivar...oorige upakari manege mahamaari.

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  • Utsav Anand J, Mangalore

    Tue, Aug 26 2014

    Dear friend shahnawaz kukkikaate, dubai/udupi

    First of all here its not a party issue. So you agree love jihad exist, if this exist someone should take the concern right(BJP). As far has the above issue is concerned our sister roopa has take the good step.

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  • Well wisher, Udupi

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Unscramble the word MOTHER IN LAW you will get WOMEN HITLER with no repetition or new added letters, that says all.

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  • Ryan D'souza, I.C.Colony/Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Well Done Roopa.. Great Job..
    Marriage is done in Heaven.. and blessed by God, couples are always happy as long as someone don't poison them..But.. when third party interferes for their personal gain..it becomes HELL in the CELL. Today Roopa is one of the victim in published news.. but there are many out there suffering silently..no way out..

    I know one incident.. where the mother in interferes in the married children life,not to weld the relationship. BUT just to destroy the relationship.., NOT to help them but just to destroy the happiness of married life.
    This mother in law even morally divorced her husband if no legal.. by putting him in the corner seat from past several decades, even she is asking her married children's to get divorce to their spouse, this mother in law never worked in her life nor achieved anything, she is totally 'dependent' for financial support from her husband and children's, but very 'Independent' in creating family politics, fighting, poisoning, reaching out newly married couples in the neighborhood to seek divorce advise in case of any marriage disputes ..but never succeeded in her goals..
    There are many out there such type of people, do think such people deserve to be mother in law, or mother? In every religion god's message is ..Peace and Happiness..

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  • Fathima, MANGALORE

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Hai Nancy,Just want to tell u nowadays money is more valuable than relationship,there r many such witchy bit##es who don't even spare their own family what if the girl was a outsider? she wudnt have been alive today.

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  • Gopal, Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014



    When your turn will come ?......

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  • joe Gonsalves, Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    It is good to see the reversal of roles. The curse of dowry harassment must end and perhaps in this case the daughter-in-law dealt with the mother-in-law as she deserved.

    I am not suggesting that the mother-in-law should have been beaten but there is a limit to dowry harassment.

    Hope the police take proper action in the case.

    Joe Gonsalves

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  • kuldesh, bangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    today we dont see the concept of adjustment in the couples.these days, soon after marriage(lavish marriage even if it is done by borrowing loans,no problem bcoz status symbol),wife excepts from man a 3bhk rented house,all hi fi furniture and household items,cat etc.how can a all the guys bring this all of a sudden at a age of 29 years.in our parents generation to have all the above said items thay took thier whole life time.but in todays generation there is no patience.recently i have heard girls parents want boy to have his own flat before marriage.dowry system is in the decline these days because of of both boy and girl working, but the above said expectations persists.

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  • Rita, Germany

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    @kudleshBangalore,here is no question of adjustment from Girls side.In -law had to adjust and not drive out herdaughter in law.not only this but first one too.I think it is better as you wrote to have a seperate home or house where the couple may have more peace than harassment from in law so Long they can afford it.There is no sense in asking more and more dowry after marraige as though Girl is brought from cattle market.No humanity shown to a new member in Family.Important how can in law bring her to Abort?unhuman,mord!and what does the husband?hiding himself.brave man! such men should not marry and make a Girls life miserable.I woder how did the hospital conducted Abort without any medical indication.They should be questioned.Hope mother in law learnt her lesson.

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  • kuldesh, bangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    ms rita,germany
    i just told in general and anyway not related to this case.in this case what the d-i-l has done is correct.but i have seen many cases where m-i-l is villain.or both are villain.in rare case husband itself is villain.one lemon is enough to spoil the entire family.holy books have predicted whole world is going to end very soon.todays couples, either husband or wife should know the value of family culture.i dont tell that it is the best system.but there is no system better than this either.as you are living in germany you know that everything there is in order there roads,streets malls etc.they are workaholic too with minimum corruption.but thier family culture is eroding and people have become robots.same thing is happening in india these days.if the spiritual wealth of india merges with material wealth and discipline of west,i think a perfect system can be created.this is my personal opinion.sorry for giving lengthy comment.
    lets hope for the better.
    thanks

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  • kuldesh, bangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    not related to this topic,i m commenting in general.

    you cant blame husband only .husband is in catch 22 situation when wife and mother quarells.if mother is wrong and if he tries to tell her he will be termed joru ka gulam by his mom and society.if he tries to advice his wife she will slap dowry harassment case and 498a on him and his entire family including his distant relative who brought the match to her will be in jail because of our great indian laws where the justice lady has closed her eyes with black cloth.even if he keeps quiet then he will be termed as nalayak by his family and impotent and unfit to be husband by his wife and her family.there is no way out for a specimen named husband when these scenarios occur.best way is two womans deal with themselves and solve the matter or live seperatly.here again another issue rises.who will look after his parents(or her parents) when they are unable to look after themselves.life is a vicious circle.
    adakke heluvudu, samsaara saagara.idannu eeji dada seruvudu yaava tapassigintha kadime alla
    thanks

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    All FEKU's are getting a beating ...

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  • Be Positive, Florida\ Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    As always it is Woman against woman and most of the Men get sandwiched between minimum 2 emotionally black mailing women (Mother & wife) unable to the take the right decision to please both the ' grieved' parties and if he keeps quiet it is taken as 'Maunam Sanmathi Lakshanam' and both parties think the Man is backing them. ultimately Many Men are made to suffer for no reason and if he divulges his problems to even his close friends he will be a butt of their jokes or if he takes their "Suggestions" the situation will be inflamed further !! so basically it is catch 22 situation!!

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  • Nabeel, doha/udupi

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Bangalore & Mangalore is infested with many uncouth men. Dowry harassment in the city is reaching heights. Many women from almost all the communities, including the Hindus and Muslims are ill-treated by their husbands for not satisfying them with the dowry that they demand before and after marriage. It's time for the civil society to boycott all marriages that involve the sickness of dowry for men. And not to forget to lodge complaints at the Women's Rights organisations, and at the Police stations against the culprits. Put these greedy 'Animals' behind the bars, so that the next person who intends to take dowry would stop materializing his thoughts.

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  • Santan Mascarenhas, Kinnigoli/Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Yesterdays
    Mother comes to son's house with a can of kerosene. "Son, why have you called me ? Is bahu pregnant or any dowry problem to be solved"

    Present days
    Member from women's organization with a broom in hand "Why have you called me ? Any one sick or any dowry problem to be solved".

    Future days
    "Namskar, Gulabi gang speaking, may I help you ? We are ready with lathis, what is your problem ? Husband drinking, wife beating, rape, or any dowry problem to be solved".

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  • Nancy, Belman

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    "Jnanesh had married Roopa, his elder sister's daughter"
    That means Roopa is grand daughter of Amaravati (Mother-in-law) And within the family dowry harassment? Strange!!!!

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  • vellano1, Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    thats common for people who live the otherside of "ghatta"!!! they get the girl married to her own mother's brother "sodara maava"!! Rajkumar's daughter got married to Parvatamma's brother too!

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  • vellano1, Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Sorry, I beg to differ!! MOB justice is never a solution!! THERE ARE STRONGEST LAWS today (thanks to Renuka chowdhary) against dowry harrassment! it can lockup entire family, those who are even mute spectators for such crime!!!

    women help line has done wrong, even though I wont blame the daughter in laws here! having said this, mother in law including, their husbands should be firmly behind bars!

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  • Eric Coelho, Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    I feel ashamed that a woman itself causes so much damage to another woman. It was the right way to thrash MIL. Men should understand a woman's might as they think they are doing a various by asking her hand. A woman Changes her name, changes her home, leaves her family, moves in and builds a home with her husband, gets pregnant for her husband, pregnancy changes her body, she gets fat, gives child birth, even the kids she delivers bears her husband's name, Till she dies she does, cooking, cleaning the house, take care of in-laws, bringing up children, earning, advising husband, ensuring that he relaxes, maintaining all family relations and everything that benefits the husbands family at the cost of her health. So who is really doing whom a favor. Dear Men and the Mothers in law appreciate your Daughters in law always because it is not easy to be a woman. Being a woman is priceless.

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  • Fredrick Correa, Pernal/Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Well said Eric! It is the women who come from outside, who build new homes.

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  • rocky, Mangalore / Qatar

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Jnanesh had married Roopa, his elder sister's daughter living in Chamarajpet here, during February last????

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  • shammi, karnataka

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Hahaha gud job.Athegondu kaala sosegondu kaala.Yes we needed this change.Now its time for every saas to get scared of their bahus.Bahurani Roopa aur Shruthi ki jai ho.

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  • PEDDU, MANGALURU

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    VERY GOOD !! SINCE THERE IS NO LAW IN THIS LAND SOMEONE HAS TO TEACH A LESSON TO THOSE MAROONS WHO COMMIT CRIME AND ESCAPE / HIDE UNDER THE LAW

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  • Elton, Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Gud Job Ladies, With the amount of crimes against Women going up, ladies will have to take some steps like these to protect themselves..

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  • vijaya, Ksa/manglore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Hip Hip Hurry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    wel done

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  • Manish Shetty, Derebail/Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Since the law not doesn't support unscrupulous claims. Trashing by these women gangs will become common now.

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  • Shalini, Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Of course Manish it should be the way these women did. What do you know how women suffer because of Dowry harassment. I think you are scared. I am very happy what they did.

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  • Ram Shetty, Mangalore/Mumbai

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Manish Shetty, Derebail/Mangalore why are you worried? they are doing the right thing i guess thiese womans were too lenient all this time, this is just the beginning i hope they teach a good lesson to all the A*****E man's... Keep it up ma'am.

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  • HENRY MISQUITH, Bahrain

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    Bharatiya Sanskriti ki Jai!!!
    good job done Bahu....When will our people give up the mania for gold & money? Saas toh saas, Bahu SubanAllah!!

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  • rizwan, Dubai/Mangalore

    Mon, Aug 25 2014

    SAAS BHI KABHI BAHOO THI.....

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