Shivamogga: Wild 'Hebbuli' haircut - stubborn son ignores mother's emotions, she ends life

Sun, Jul 16 2017 02:02:30 PM

Daijiworld Media Network - Shivamogga (SP)

Shivamogga, Jul 16: A teacher from the city committed suicide at her residence at Vinoba Nagara here on the night of Friday July 14. She was overwhelmed by the fact that her son had violated her instructions and got the 'tiger' haircut like some filmy heroes and resisted her efforts to do away with it.

The woman who ended her life by hanging herself at her home was V Pratiba (47), a teacher of San Jose School here. Her son, Vijay, a ninth standard student, had got his hair done at the salon like in the film 'Hebbuli', which is a style currently in vogue, although his mother had instructed him against it. When Vijay returned home, his mother got wild and told him that being a teacher, she and other fellow teachers send back students of the school with strange haircuts. "Being the son of a teacher, if you behave like this, what respect I can expect from my students,?" she wanted to know.

Although his mother advised Vijay to return to the salon and set his hair style right, the son refused. As he remained stubborn, Pratibha, in a rage, used the scissors in an effort to repair his haircut. Vijay fought with his mother, which gave rise to consternation in her mind. Out of frustration, she went into her bedroom, and hanged herself.

Vinoba Nagara police have registered a case. Investigation is on.

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Rao, Udupi
Mon, Jul 17 2017
RIP Mother. It looks mother lost her presence of mind in emotion. Mother being a teacher should have known that there are other ways to reform the kid. If obedience was not there , then counselling would have been a better option. When there is argument or fight the real win is when the outcome is good result. Mother being matured should have chosen to lose and reform the kid later with alternative methods. But sometimes emotion prevail and we loose our presence of mind.

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Salah, AUH
Mon, Jul 17 2017
Really Tragic! I do honestly believe she could have given him some time to understand. I think there are much better ways to tame children rather than ending life.

When i was a teenager, footballer Ronaldo's hairstyle was famous which i did once and went home. My father promptly took me back to the saloon, blasted at the hairstylist and told him to make me bald. Then he strictly told me 'when you start to earn, do as you wish. But when i am taking care of you, follow my rules!' which i still remember and feel how silly i was to follow a footballer who wouldn't even know me in his whole lifetime.

RIP Teacher.

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J.F.D SOUZA, Attavar, Mangalore
Mon, Jul 17 2017
For such petty issues if the children behave ignoring parents advice they feel bad and disgusted. But there was no neccessity of ending life. Gradually she could have corrected him by advising him politely. Yes sometimes we also feel bad when we look at certain students doing some sort of awkard type of hair cut which doesn't suit their face and personality. They look like some mad people. The school authorities should look into this and ban such type of hair dressing.

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Mangalurian, Mangaluru
Mon, Jul 17 2017
Unfortunately this article does not provide the whole story.

The sons learn to behave in a much better way and understand the meaning of respect when the wife respects her husband.

The sons automatically copy their mother.

But what if the woman completely disrespects the husband and throws him out? Often using her own sons in her battle against the husband?

So the sons grow up with a thing called disrespect. Eventually the mother becomes the victim of that disrespect.

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peddu, managluru
Sun, Jul 16 2017
There is no discipline in the family like earlier used to do !! earlier one cant stand in front of family head ! everybody respect that but now yo yo honey singh ! there is no family values ! only whatsapp values !!

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sharan, Mangalore
Sun, Jul 16 2017
This lady probably had other issues and was in depression, has suicidal tendency as well.This incident was just a trigger.She needed help.No point blaming the son .If something occurred other way round people would blame the mother.One should accept or recognize depression & seek help early.Sad incident.May she RIP.

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Suraj, Mangaluru
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Child upbringing is one of the most formidable and difficult tasks a parent will ever take on in life. It is even more difficult in a society like ours that is in transition with all the forces of darkness that seems overwhelming.
Urbanization has brought with it many negative influences on children. We can think of TV and some of its immoral programmes, materials such as magazines and movies, the use of alcohol and illicit drugs, the practice of the occult and its negative effects among others.

Raising a child is the hardest, most responsible and satisfying task a human being can face. It's also the job for which people receive the least formal training.
Each person's knowledge of how to bring up a child usually comes from their surroundings and their own upbringing. This may result in patterns from the parent's own social experiences being repeated and passed on to their children.

Parents are role models
Parents are the most influential role models children are likely to have. Parents who pay compliments and show respect, kindness, honesty, friendliness, hospitality and generosity to their children will encourage them to behave in the same way.
Time to time taking children to orphanages and old age homes and helping in charity , making them to write essays on these subjects will make children to understand reality.

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Nithya, Mangalore
Sun, Jul 16 2017
This incident may not be a spontaneous reaction. Today's teens' styles are not understood by parents under any logic. Further many parents still have the egos brought forward from their peak times. This incident may be where the mother was always trying to control her son, and son was not listening. She had become desperate by this and might have threatened him also. Today she couldn't hold it anymore.

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joseph, kudupu/kuwait
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Those who disobey parents whoever he or she may be, whatever religion he or she may belongs to i dont care!!! already cursed!! this is not from my pocket please go through the following passage, which is already written in Deuteronomy 21:18–21 expands on the law:

If any man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey his father or his mother, and when they chastise him, he will not even listen to them, then his father and mother shall seize him, and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gateway of his home town. And they shall say to the elders of his city, “This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey us, he is a glutton and a drunkard.” Then all the men of his city shall stone him to death; so you shall remove the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear of it and fear

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Swamy, Mangalore
Sun, Jul 16 2017
It's a ever-changing world by nature nothing remains the same for variety of reasons. So in order to live in this world we too along with the young minds need to change at any stage of life. Only thing is we should accept this change with patience and apply it with wise discipline.

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Agee, India - UAE
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Being a teacher she could have handled her son very politly no matter it would taken sometime to get her son fall on line. There is no success in Harsh and immediate solution it only get worst....

Patience bring reward always!!

RIP

SAD that he lost his mother at this tender age....

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MATEEN, MOODBIDRI-ABU DHABI
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Film effect

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Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Child should have been corrected when he was small.
Now it is too late ...

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Rachna John, Dubai
Sun, Jul 16 2017
By reading this news, I feel so bad for the mother, Its easy to make statements like young generation and stuff, but as a teacher- just imagine her condition. Being a teacher its hard to handle if her child is studying in the same school and not following rules. Schools always have rules where each and every kid has to follow, he is only in grade 9 not even college. May you soul RIP teacher

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Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Spare the rod & spoil your child.
Child has already got spoiled by then ...

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ramnaik, mangalore
Sun, Jul 16 2017
I CAN'T BLAME THE PARENTS IN THIS CASE IT MAY HER EGO OR ANYTHING.IF CHILDREN ARE NOT OBEYING THEIR PARENTS MEANS IT WILL HURT TOO MUCH.RECENTLY I SEEN A FATHER AND SON QUARRELLING AT BHARATH MALL DUE TO A SIMPLE REASON THAT THE BOY WANT SOME POCKET MONEY AND FATHER IS TELLING THAT ANY THING IF YOU WANT PURCHASE WITH ME THEN WHY YOU WANT MONEY.............................
ACCORDING TO ME FATHER IS CORRECT BUT FINALLY SON WON IN FIGHTING AND TEARS APPEARED IN FATHER EYES.I ALSO FELT VERY BAD.......

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readerwriter007, pune
Sun, Jul 16 2017
for all those who says parents need to change, accept the children as it is... we need to be flexible... we are in digital era... just close your eyes and then think if it was your son or daughter... yes , can ignore ... but not so easy. please... think before comment. It's a mother who committed suicide... not a young lover... freaking friend ... it's mother who carried this evil for 9 months and struggled all her life to grown this evil and make him a youth.

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Shivanand, Udipi / Qatar
Sun, Jul 16 2017
She should have hanged him. RIP Teacher.

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Rita, Germany
Mon, Jul 17 2017
@Shivanand Udipi,qatar,would you do it suppose it was your child?As a mother to go harsh against her son when he didnt want to change his hair style,could have also waited for a day to comedown from her temper ,and later consoled him suppose ,that hair style they dont like,he should change it next day.but for a day let him have his fun.Children at this age,from becoming teenager go sometimes bit out of the line,but later will return to normal.A parent shouldnt always day and night go behind them only preach.when so children will become rebell.afterall a other haircut is not a worldwar.At the end ,now that child has no mother ,(Without father too?)she didnt think it.child too didnt want it ,he did it without thinking of consequences.On the whole it is a tragody to everyone.heartfelt sympathy to the little boy.

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Shivanand, Udipi / Qatar
Mon, Jul 17 2017
Rita
What he achieved now? Lost his Mother and became orphan! His father may get another wife but son?

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sri_elder, Karkala
Sun, Jul 16 2017
By the way where is his father when these things happening?

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Vincent Rodrigues, Bengaluru/Katapadi
Sun, Jul 16 2017
WE NEED TO HAVE MORE COUNCELLING CENTERS TO DEAL WITH THE PRESENT SICK GENERATION

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Danish, Mangalore
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Who is more stubborn?
A teenager who wants a new haircut or Teacher taking her ego and job and mixing it with her personal life.
With all respect to the lady this is such a trivial issue if not now she would have done it in future when he grows up and doesn't listen to him. We need more counselling centers, People are living their lives based on their ego.

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Joseph, Qatar
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Danish, Mangalore

This episode is just LIKE two sides of a coin. It is practically in ever household - whether directly or indirectly. You got to be very realistic -- that is, if this was the only reason why she committed suicide then frictions between the mother and son MAY have been going on for a very long time now and this blew out of proportion..God alone knows. No one can be conclusive just at the haircut episode. Maybe other family members / distant relatives, peers, near and dear ones could throw more light to reach a satisfactory conclusion.

Nevertheless, it is a very sad incident ... May God grant the fortitude to her family members to bear this irreparable loss.

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Antonio DSilva, Kuwait
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Danish, Mangalore

First of all the mother gave him birth and then slogged her life off to ensure a decent life for him, a life with good education and values that unfortunately are not necessary for many of us who can pass off any behavior by teenagers as trivial.

The teacher on the other hand was trying to impart good values into other children in adherence to the school's code of discipline not knowing that her own offspring resented good values. It is not her ego but her acceptance that she was an utter failure with her offspring that made her take this extreme step.

And for the record this boy will never change, unfortunately even his mother's suicide will not affect him.

Someone in this forum commented about the state of affairs 30 - 40 years ago;
30 - 40 years ago, many of us teenagers understood and willingly shouldered the yokes of our parents to make life easier for them and us as well.

Today, many of our children and even those well beyond their teenage years add to the yokes of their parents with their unreasonable demands although parents strive every day to make their children's lives comfortable. Somehow this modern-day malady where children don't appreciate the efforts exerted by their parents affects many a household; suicide may not be a remedy, but then to this mother and teacher who felt deep down in her heart that she had lost it all, it may have proved the only way out.

Again, as a parent myself, my heartfelt RIP to her and I pray that such tragedy may not befall another teacher!

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Abhilash, Anantapur
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Very well said, Sir.....Listening to parents does not cost any thing. One should be ready to sacrifice small wishes/interests if it does you parent more harm than good. in this case, being a teacher how devastated she might have been...can any one imagine? But yes, ending life is not correct. Now a days it is very difficult to judge what is correct and what is wrong. RIP .

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S. M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, Dubai
Sun, Jul 16 2017
We need to adjust life cycle wherever it needed but it shocking that being as a teacher committed suicide just an hair style reason.

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readerwriter007, pune
Sun, Jul 16 2017
it's the same status at most of the house now a days. Some mothers will be able to overcomes , but hardly few such instances. but most of the cases will end up with parents leave these rogs to their own leaving the hope of their future. Some will go to the extreme of ending themselves as it happened in this case. But I am sure this shameless son will not realize what an end his mother took because of his stupid act. Pity on mother to get such an end of her life, because of her own son. I am sure many will comment we should commit suicide, why to take such steps... etc etc. but seeing her won son fighting with her, disobeying her wishes or instruction... I am sure she must have felt so helpless about her future, his future.... decided instead of seeing such a future , end herself... Hope destiny will punish this gentleman and he realize his mistake one fine day and cry for his mother... RIP

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Mangalore Mirror, Mangalore
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Lot of people these days end lives for reasons which are pretty ignorable. People will anyways talk about others no matter how good or bad you are, if you are going to end your life cos you thing what will people say then I just feel sad for you. Anytime you start getting sucidal tendencies, please visit a hospital and see people who are battling for life every minute. Meet cancer patients who know death is waiting for them but are hanging on to every little hope they can muster. Life is simple people, don't complicate it..

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A. Shetty, BALMATT, MANGALORE, YANBU/KSA
Sun, Jul 16 2017
RIP. Very sad incident. As a parent, you can't expect the situation which is prevailing before 30- 40 years ago. We need to transform ourselves to the changed atmosphere. Nowadays we need to be more friendly with the children while inflicting our own laws. Sometime we have to accept the thing that is going on, regarding dress code or haircut or any other matter.

Best way to do 20 minutes Pranayam on daily basis.

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prem, moodbidri
Sun, Jul 16 2017
For him, hair style was important than his mother. Now, for lifelong, Madam Pratibha's son can do hair style as per his wish.

Some times, we don't get second opportunity to set the things right, than just regretting.

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Beowulf, Mangalore
Sun, Jul 16 2017
prem,

Are you really blaming the son??

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prem, moodbidri
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Sir, I am not blaming son. But, some time we have to sacrifice something to make our parents happy. Being adamant in relationship always end up in heart break.

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Antonio DSilva, Kuwait
Sun, Jul 16 2017
Sick generation!

Nowadays parents have to accept their children's every fantasy however wildest it may be, but they don't care to listen to the parents view. God help us all. You will find just a trace of children who will obey their parents.

RIP to the distraught mother and teacher!

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Rao, Udupi

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