Sex and rape: It's time the law is set down with clarity


Courtsey : Deccan Herald (Sanjay Hegde)

Bangalore, Sep 18 : Men of India be warned, if you have sex with a woman be prepared to marry her, else you risk being criminally prosecuted for rape. Last week, a Dutch national was arrested by the Bangalore police on rape charges.

He is accused of cheating a woman with false promises of marriage and inducing her to have sex with him. The couple met on social media in 2011, and physically consummated their relationship subsequently.The woman filed criminal charges in 2014 only when she found out that he could not marry her as he was already married. The son of a senior Union minister is also being investigated for similar charges, on almost similar facts. Criminal courts are seeing a spike in rape cases, in fact situations that would have normally been dealt with by the civil courts, as suits for damages for a breach of promise to marry.

Legally speaking, sex without consent of the parties amounts to rape. In cases of sex being induced by a promise of marriage, the argument for the prosecution, is that there is no valid consent. The woman’s consent to sex, was obtained by a false promise of marriage, (that the man knew, was false from the beginning). Vitiated consent being no consent, what started as consensual sex became rape with the disappearance of consent. In our overtly moralistic society, this argument has some semblance of merit, and there are even some Supreme Court judgments that tend to favour such a position.

In 2002, in Uday v State of Karnataka, a two judge bench of the Supreme Court in dealing with such a situation in a criminal context, acquitted the accused of rape. It held “The failure to keep the promise at a future uncertain date due to reasons not very clear on the evidence does not always amount to a misconception of fact at the inception of the act itself. In order to come within the meaning of misconception of fact, the fact must have an immediate relevance. The matter would have been different if the consent was obtained by creating a belief that they were already married.... If a full grown girl consents to the act of sexual intercourse on a promise of marriage and continues to indulge in such activity until she becomes pregnant it is an act of promiscuity on her part and not an act induced by misconception of fact.”

However, in 2004 in Dilip v State another two judge bench also acquitted the accused in a similar situation but while examining the question of consent in such cases, seized on the following line in Uday’s judgment “ … to fasten criminal liability on the other, unless the court can be assured that from the very inception the accused never really intended to marry her."
So the law seems to be that a woman who is given a vague, non-deceitful promise of marriage, has sex but is not raped. But a man who from the beginning never intends marriage, but makes deceptive promises to obtain sex is a rapist. This position enunciated in Dilip’s case, makes the rape law unclear, dependent upon evidence not of fact and action, but is based upon evidence of the mental state of the accused and victim.

Fuzzy logic

A woman may well consent, knowing that there are difficulties in the way of marriage, but still hopeful of a happy ending. The man may well have intended marriage at a later date if possible, but insuperable difficulties or irreconcilable differences, may have made him change his mind. The consequence of such fuzzy logic from the Supreme Court, has been to flood the criminal courts with rape cases of this sort, which seek to force into marriage, persons on the pain of imprisonment.

There is also the anomalous situation that the man may claim that he still intends to marry the woman as and when a subsequent divorce, renders him free to do so. Secondly, it is anomalous to have a criminal prosecution rendered infructuous, by the victim and the accused marrying each other. Criminal courts are not intended to be marriage bureaus, or play the part of enforcers of pre-marriage vows. Private wrongs are set right by the civil process and wrongs against the state are prosecuted in the criminal courts. It is no one’s case, that pre-marital consensual sex, is a crime in the Indian republic.

It is time that the law is set down with clarity. In the absence of a clear drawing of lines, all sex outside the marital bed, is a potential act of rape. The Supreme Court should clarify the legal position by a judgment from a larger bench. In the absence of a judgment, Parliament would do well to consider whether any legislative clarification is needed. Consent relevant to rape law, is consent at the time of the sexual act. If there is consent before and during the act, subsequent discovery, that the consent was based on misconceived facts should not criminalise past transactions.

Promising marriage in return for sex and not living up to that promise, is morally wrong, totally selfish and reprehensible, but it is not rape. Prosecutors and judges, must desist from succumbing to populist clamour in these matters and ensure that genuine victims of forcible rape, do not have their day in court, derailed by tawdry romances. The threat of imprisonment should not be used to railroad people into marriage. After all as John Mortimer pertinently pointed out, “Matrimony and murder both carry a mandatory life sentence”.

  

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  • Sundari Ashoknagar, Mangalore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    I neither sympathise with the so called victims of promised marriages, nor do I support the deceivers. Bhandumam, aa malayali film yepa malpuvar.

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  • Amith, udupi

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    sign a pre-sex agreement and stamp it with authorized notary it will be a better solution rather than to and fro motion producing milking solutions to the women ...

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  • mm, mlore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    oohh I have friends who will be terrified after reading this :)I however am safe, I think...)but then there goes potential future encounters don't think it will be pleasurable considering the risks for years to come...apna haath jaganath best for Indians

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  • steven, dubai

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    If so much hype in these sex matter then why the sex industry is running in the society? What promise is after all? whose Will and whose unwell?

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  • Vinod , Mangalore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    If women offer themselves with consent then there should not be any case against the men.
    Did a man anytime file a cheating case against woman?
    I think law should not waste its time on such cases.
    If the girl has allowed it to happen without consulting anybody or the law she better face the consequences alone.
    Why unnecessarily waste others time.
    If its rape I think the police has enough methods to get the truth from both man and woman

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Vinod,

    Woman herself consents is in only one case, when the woman is a sex worker. You are right - no man has ever filed a case against such women !

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  • JOHN R LOBO, Kaikamba/Dubai

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    What about recent Rape case...???
    15 year old boy and 45 year old lady with short term memory loss....????

    Who has seduced to whom...????? Wake up mam...!!!

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Who calls it as a rape ? Neither the 15 year-old nor the 45 year-old. None of them filed a case.

    Then, why worry ?

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Think a new Malyalam film
    15 into 3= 45 is being made based on this story. Wait for the Promos...

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  • Ashwil, Mangalore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Lydia, it's a shame that educated people's definition of rape is just like yours. India going backward when it comes to morality not forward. The only country, other than Islamic countries, that connects sex with marriage is INDIA. In other countries sex with same or opposite sex with consent is not rape. You do not need to marry to have sex, whether men or women. If women thinks promise of marriage (in India's case) is a precursor for consent and when the man don't want to marry then how suddenly this consent disappears. Then women should indeed wait until actually marriage takes place. You can't blame men for your fault. Why they can't wait until marriage in first place?? In your own word, if you dig deep, tomorrow even a sex worker can go to the court and argue that though I am a sex worker, I did not want to have sex with this man for money but he promised me to marry me. What would you say?? If the women want to have sex with the condition of marriage and then thinks, they are cheated after having sex, then they should wait until marriage. It's simple logic which Indian society cant digest. People want to have everything western (dress, household things, fashion) but they cant think like western society. I think we have to grow up. when there is no force involved, that cant be termed rape.

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  • Roshan braganza, Mumbai

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    If the trend continues there will be exponential spike in false cases with malicious intent. These days we can see even VIP's and NRI's are not spared. First and foremost all section has to become gender neutral. Fair and Equal.

    There is another trend of more and more youths going to Jail for intimacy with minors. Its not fair since todays youth start experimenting too early and only boys are trapped. How long we be hypocrite and pushing this issue under the carpet. Lot of minor girls become pregnant and ' father' goes to jail leaving mother and baby hapless.

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Sometimes I wonder
    A 2 minute Sojourn Down Under
    Gives so many points to Ponder
    Amongst Other
    Whether it was Right or a Blunder!

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  • Ashish, Mlore/DXB

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    i dont understand our government moral policy.. if couples have living relation .. and final stage if guy cheat a girl it will be consider as rape, and vice versa if girl cheat a guy and guy stand for his right its called black mail.. Y its not called a rape??? as part of 21 century both have equal ( Indian constitution act).. government should re think on this bec here both gender as same equal rights.

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  • shiva, ko

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Dear Fiza,

    no answer. the question as difficult as why cat is interested in drinking milk ???

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  • PEDDU, MANGALURU

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    GIRL DEMONS ARE ALWAYS TO BE AWARE OF MEN WHO THREATEN TO THEIR IDENTITY AND DIGNITY FIRST !! WHO IS IGNITING THE FIRE HERE !!

    RAPE IS NOT HAPPENING WITHIN ONE DAY - WHICH HAS A PROCESS BY THE CRIMINAL PEOPLE - FIRST THEY LOOK FOR THE PREY AND THEY FOLLOW AND THEN SKETCH !!

    GIRLS TO BE CLEVER ENOUGH TO ALERTED BY TELLING THEIR FRIENDS - PARENTS ( GOD HAS GIVEN BASIC INSTINCT TO THE ANIMALS TO ESCAPE FROM THE DANGEROUS SITUATION OR THREATEN THEIR LIFE)

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  • Doomsknight, Mangalore/Dubai

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    You may be correct but you have to fight for the justice.No one has a right to enjoy somebody's hard-earned money.You can give your case to private detective or watch "Savadan India" episode in LIFE OK how they solve these kind of cases. As a lady this is the best solution I can give you,although I'm a happily married women and never depend on my husband's money also. I believe each human being should work hard and help each other not to gobbling up our partner's money.

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  • fiza, dubai

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    I still dont understand why to people have consensual sex before their wedding ..i dont think its necessary what pleasure do they get ... why rape .. if its like you cant wait for long time then get married ..you are safe and girls are also safe

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  • mm, mlore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    what are u talking? which world u living in? we are in 2014 and indian rape laws are still 1914 and evolving backwards..it needs clearly stating laws and not abstinent. what if the girl approaches for sex, should I say no? say I will marry u first and then only??

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  • Peter, Brahmavar

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Woman offering herself to have something and get something and when it fails from either side taking advantage of the weak Indian law is become common in career oriented girls. Man is victim in the hands of police, lawyers and courts. There should be strict law for adultery for such cases applicable to those who involved intentionally.

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  • Prakash, Mangalore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    A promise has no meaning in legality. Everyone makes promises to others and indeed to themselves which they don't or sometimes cannot keep.
    An adult is to be held responsible for their decisions even when such decisions result in personal loss/harm. In any case how does one prove the existence of a verbal commitment of any sort?

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  • JOHN R LOBO, Kaikamba/Dubai

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    I am not defending either side.

    But in many case Rape Law’s are misused for settling personal scores or Black mailing or defending from Family members and Society.

    Out of line Boys has to keep records of conversation of babes/ gals / Escorts/ Call girls / Married women of Mother age or Grandma's age to keep your self out of trouble.
    This is applicable to decent Boys also to avoid BLACKMAILING from gals or whoever it is….!!!!!
    If you are slightly care less then…..
    End result pay millions to close case ( Out of court settlement - So called Victim, Police, Lawyers ) or Go inside for 7 years OR BUY opposite party Lawyer ???..Case Khalaas...

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    “Matrimony and murder both carry a mandatory life sentence”.unquote.
    John Mortimer completely right.
    1. therefore many in the present era opt for flings.
    2. After 'flinging ' some ladies thinking. How fleecing? Therefore, case putting.
    3. Men in any case worst. Always thinking of flinging. Flinging, flinging and one day in net falling. All money going.
    Correct understanding??
    Think if both have sex with clarity no misunderstanding.
    I suggestion giving.

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  • joe Gonsalves, Mangalore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Sex and rape are now daily occurrences. Hope law comes down heavily on the offenders who indulge these kind of acts.

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  • Suleman Beary, Udupi

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Every youngster singing similar song.."Darmogula bodchi maraya"...

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Just singing is not enough - must make it a practice too.

    I am sure the man who carried a drunken woman on is shoulders to reach her home did not sing this song, else, he would not have raped her in a deserted spot.

    For some drunken or dead body, grown up or a child, none makes a difference ! Demons !

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  • R.Bhandarkar, M'lore

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Madam...
    Think singing is easy. Many will agree!

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  • JOHN DSOUZA, USA/MUMBAI

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    I just wanted to ask what about false dowry haressement case and tortecher case where men have to suffer. When will that law be changed. As i have gone through this so i know how difficult it as the other party including the lawyer and police are only interested in extracting money on basis of false charges. And now that girl family is in dubai enjoying my hard earned money whihc they got through false case filing and then coming to a conclusin called compromise. if you want i can submit all the paper

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    John,

    I do sympathize with you but the damage must be repaired by yourself. The more you go 'Tan.. Tan..' about it will make your opponent laugh more jubilantly.

    The world does not end with just one woman that you were involved with. Do not wait for the law to smile at you, by then you will lose all your molars. Hope you understand what I mean to say.

    Good luck !

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Clear or fuzzy logic, it all matters when one indulges in sex outside marriage. There is an adage - male will dirty himself where there is dirt, clean up where there is clean water does not apply anymore. Don't expect to dirty yourself at your will and expect your wife to be waiting you to clean you up. Women are human beings, may she be your wife or somebody else's. Do not take advantage of her. Safest is to refrain from sex before marriage.

    Caution to women too. The man who intends to marry you, will wait until marriage to be physical with you. Do not go by his promises he makes in the air - go for a promise that he makes in front of his and your parents to accept you as your are. The man accepts you publicly deserves your chastity !

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  • HENRY MISQUITH, Bahrain

    Thu, Sep 18 2014

    Ultimately, this is a breach of trust - A man promising marriage in lieu of sexual relations and then not fulfilling his end of promise, is a breach of trust. If the two mutual decide to have sex, or mutually decide to not get married, it is their mutual decision. This is betrayal only when the man has had sex with the woman and then jilted her. Similarly, a woman refusing to have sexual relations with her husband is grounds for divorce. Ultimately, sex is a natural outcome of a marriage and all sex must be with mutual consent. Yes, this is subject to misuse but then so are dowry harassment laws. I'd say, tread carefully.

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