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Udupi: Elderly couple found dead, suicide suspected

  •   Wed, Mar 19 2014 01:38:21 PM

Udupi: Elderly couple found dead, suicide suspected

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Daijiworld Media Network - Udupi (UM)

Udupi, Mar 19: An elderly man and his wife were found dead in their residence opposite Rohini petrol pump at Karavali bypass here on Wednesday March 19.

The deceased Sanjeeva Kotian (70) and his wife Indira (62) died of burn injuries. Though it is suspected that they might have set themselves on fire, possibility of an accident fire is not ruled out.

Sanjeeva and Indira were the only ones staying in the house. Their son Vinod resides in Dubai while daughter Rajani is in the US.

It is said that Sanjeeva would often call up Vasanth, a relative for any assistance. On Tuesday March 18 night, he called up Vasanth and asked him to join him for grocery shopping on Wednesday morning.

However, when Vasanth came to Sanjeeva's house on Wednesday, he found the him and his wife burnt to death in their bedroom.

It is said that Sanjeeva had some illness and was discharged from hospital just last week.

DySP Prabhudev Mane, circle inspector Maruti Nayak, SI Madhu and other officials inspected the spot.

A forensic team has been called from Mangalore.

Udupi town police have registered a case.


 
  

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  • Vanita A, Mangalore/Mumbai/Bangalore

    Fri, Mar 21 2014

    Very Shocking News.I knew Aunty & Uncle when I was staying in Mumbai in a Colony.We were neighbors. Then They shifted to Mangalore. RIP Aunty & Uncle.

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  • suresh shetty mumbai, mangalore

    Thu, Mar 20 2014

    how both will die by suicide, both very intelligent, they gave good education & may be well settled it looks like the builder greedy now a days people are greedy behind prime plots ,the possibilities are there, please dont hurry, check up who is behind this property the same person does this , may be family members also involved in such cases.

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  • cliffy, Mangalore

    Thu, Mar 20 2014

    Very sad incident. Times have changed. Parents should not be too much depend on the kids and they have to make their own security before they get old. Youth have no good jobs in DK. That is the reason they had look for jobs in abroad.

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  • Gibs, Udupi

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    We cannot blame the children alone. There is a case where an elderly mother staying in the village alone. She doesn't want to stay with her children in the gulf, doesn't want to stay with her daughter-in-laws staying nearby, doesn't want a domestic helper in the house. She wants to stay alone in her old house independently. What the children will do in this situation ?

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  • Vincent Rodrigues, Katapadi/Bangalore

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Elderly couple suspected of suicide is doubtful because their children are well placed and working in abroad.Hope the investigation and enquiry from the police department will vindicate the real facts.Thanq.

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  • majid, bangalore

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    If a person wants to commit sucide he has so many other easy ways to die/consume poison and not to burn to death but our police is in hurry to close the case and go to the next one by claiming sucide.

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  • Jossey Saldanha, Mumbai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Home for the aged is now a REALITY...

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  • jeetendra hegde, mumbai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    now a days human beings too become like Animals and birds...once getting an education and good career children fly away..

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  • Arline Dsouza, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Well said Kamathmam. Big Salute to you.

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  • Arun Kamath, Udupi

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    well wisher udupi, now you dont realize and it is very easy to comment in the blog. I do agree all parents want to have their kids live good healthy and wealthy life but at least when parents are in need during their old age or sickness every parent need moral support and love. Money is not everything in life. you cannot buy your parents though you are multi billionaire.

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  • Well wisher, Udupi

    Thu, Mar 20 2014

    I know it may not be right on my part to say that parents should not expect from children, as this is the rule of nature, you might think I'm ridiculous if I compare us with animals around study their behavior their love for their young ones is selfless but ours is selfish. The more you expect the more disappointed you will be. This is just to strengthen ourselves .

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  • Alexander Prashanth Menezes, karkala/Dubai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Many of us are not aware of the fact that as and when a person ages, he gets more and more stubborn. If the children are living abroad, in most cases It is difficult to convince your old parents to come and stay with you. Many a times, the old parents do not like the idea of staying in a foreign land with their children due to climatic conditions in a foreign land, lack of open space to move around compared to their houses back in native places and many a times for a simple reason that they do not want to be dependent on their children. It is not always that children will leave their parents to live on their own and not take care of them. Most of the children, including me, do everything that is possible to take care of our old parents and try our best to convince them to come and stay with us. I agree with some that most of the children cannot sponsor their parents as the cost and living, their present financial conditions do not allow them to do this, but there quite a lot of children who want their parents to come and live a better life with them in a foreign land. I feel sad when things like these happen, but blaming the children for this accident is not always fair. I pray that the departed souls rest in eternal peace.

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  • Rita, Germany

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    @Alex.P.Dubai,I fully agree with you.children cannot stay always with the children.and when, then,it doesn't go without Problems.Many Young Generation doesn't agree with elder one and there is quarrel daily Programm.some may say now many things.and your daily bread have to be earned that is not at your foot.let us not discuss about it now and here.probably some gas leak and cigarette fire must have caused fire which they could not escape.Nobody wants to burn in fire whatever Problems are.May their souls rest in peace.

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  • Roshan Braganza, Mumbai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    It's very wrong to leave elderly parents alone . Agree , people have issues like workplace , time constraint. Also getting parental visa is also not easy . Its wise to keep someone trusted with them on a full time basis , itz not tough there lot of jobless people out there.

    Around twin districts, there is a mushrooming trend of old age homes , common among catholics . For some its business , it may provide care and emergency, but certainly they miss dear ones. After what they sacrificed their whole life and for upbringing of siblings , its sad they are stranded in some old age home. Think about it , Time takes a full leap , everyone becomes old . I personally feel money or wealth earned by staying away from the family does not make any sense. It just shows the greed. That's it .

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  • Ethan, Florida\ Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    There are many angles for this and commentator should see from all the angles possible.
    1. May be they lead a better life since both the children are abroad.
    2. All parent's basic desire is to see their children lead a better life.
    3. How do we know they were not happy with the life they were leading.
    4.What if the same "accident" have claimed their children too!!
    5. What would have been the comments is the Girl had run away and the Boy was a rowdy sheeter?!!
    6. God knows better
    7. Let us watch the outcome of police Investigation.

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  • S.M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, Udupi / Dubai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014


    So Sad, RIP
    Why their son and Daughter left them alone in home? Why they are not taking care these elderly parents. Really disgusting

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  • Joyson, Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    You work in Dubai, so have you taken your parents there and taking care of them in Dubai?. Things do not always work the way we wanted considering so many dependencies and situations.

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  • S.M. Nawaz Kukkikatte, Udupi / Dubai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014


    Dear Joyson, Mangalore

    Yes am working here in Dubai and My wife taking care my mom and i visited twice in a year. Yes, I understand so many dependencies and situations But not rather than our own parents. We should think about their mentality and physical situation, especially in elderly age before they take any cruelly act.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Apologies Nawaz, Cases can be different from person to person. You are visiting your home twice a year, people don't earn enough even to buy a ticket once in two years.

    What should they do ? Remain single ? If they marry, his alone's salary is not enough. So, he takes his wife along, both work and add up to the income.

    How can we insist that he leaves his wife behind to look after his parents ? That too with his alone's earnings ? Not justified to anybody - his parents, wife, children, all !

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  • Tony Pinto, Manglore - Dubai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Dear sir god bless you for your good thoughts......but please don't throw stones on others when we all are sailing in same SHIP. Really sad news for children , may their soul rest in Peace.

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  • J.H., Mangalore

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Really sad, may their soul rest in Peace.
    Yes, I too feel what is wrong with staying at home for the aged. As we have lived our lives when we were young, the same way our children too should live their life, this is what I feel, I would not want to be depended on my children. since i am also growing old I have decided I would go to a home for the aged where one can live and die peacefully, or someone will be around to help during the last moments. There is no harm in going to Home for the aged. Then it is each person's choice.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    J. H., Me included.

    We parents have freed our children of worries about looking after us both when we will be old. We have made provision for our monetary security and have been educating our children as per their faring/choice of profession.

    We have been examples to them by looking after our own parents, but did not fill them with advance guild if/whether they would be able to do the same with their parents.

    We don't know where their fate will take them, but they can dream freely about their future.

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  • Rudolf, Mumbai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Very poignant incident, RIP!!

    Now with most children, preferring to settle abroad, the parents are left to fend for themselves in their old age with no one to talk to them, take care of them!! This deficiency the children try to compensate with money!! But, money can only buy material comforts, not the much required support and companionship of children, grandchildren, etc. which make their old age pass through with contentment!!

    Though children may want them to settle abroad, but the majority who has lived in India never like the cold climate and societal setup abroad, and would prefer to stay alone and die here rather than suffer from depression, loss of freedom, and boredom in a far off country with extreme climate and highly restricted human interaction!!

    Heard of many parents who do not encourage their kids to settle abroad due to the fear of losing their companionship in old age!!

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  • Arun Kamath, Udupi

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    This is the problem in almost every house these days. Most of the old age parents left back home and the kids go abroad for their better future. What will happen in future? Who will look after our old aged parents if not their own kids?? May their soul rest in peace. Amen

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  • Well wisher, Udupi

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Mr. Arun
    Very glad to know people like you exist who will sacrifice jobs for the sake of parents, but good parents have to also think of their children too this is the reality, and staying away doesn't mean they don't love their parents, and how many instances are there where having parents near them is also not very much i n happy terms. This happens only in India as there is too much expectations from everyone which is a weakness.

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  • Lydia Lobo, Kadri

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    Sad. RIP.

    It's true that not all can sponsor their parents. May be their children were visiting them every year, took care of their monetary needs - granted- not blaming whatsoever. But, who knew that there will be an accident ?

    My question is, why do we have a very bad opinion about old-age-homes ? Its either the parents don't agree to leave their place or the children feel inferior to admit their parents in one of them.

    Gone are the days that there were half a dozen children, either of them would look after the old. We have come to a time zone when our one/two child/ren have grown up and gone in search of their bread.

    Its time the elderly as well as the children understand the situation and live in homes, together with people of their own age and in the company of care-givers.

    More safer than suffocating to death.

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  • Rudolf, Mumbai

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    One has to personally experience or have someone close living in these run-of-the-mill old age homes to see the treatment, food, facilities, etc. which no old person living in a comfortable home with sufficient finances will go to unless forced and put in there!! Old age homes are money spinning businesses in the guise of charity and social work!! Jai Hind!!

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  • Suleman Beary, Udupi

    Wed, Mar 19 2014

    This is the most common problem of old age parents.
    Children stay far away in search of better job and the parents have to lead an old age home life.
    No one nearby to protect them from such fire incidents.
    Very sad incident. RIP.

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